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“After one session with Sarah, I have been able to make moves towards what I want in my personal life and career, without overwhelm or fear.”
EMMA K. · OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST
RAPID & EFFECTIVE THERAPY FOR JEALOUSY AND INSECURITY
Worldwide Service · Brisbane-Based
Jealous and insecure?Let’s Fix That.
Not too much.
A nervous system bracing for loss.
“You can feel secure — with them, and without them.”
Ready to stop checking, testing and bracing and actually enjoy being loved?
WHAT I TREAT
It shows up in many ways.
It isn’t about them, and it isn’t a character flaw. It’s a nervous system that learned, somewhere, that love can be taken away without warning — and never stopped watching for it.
However it shows up — this is a pattern, not who you are.
01.
Checking their phone or socials
Looking for the thing you dread, and feeling worse whether you find it or not.
02.
Reading danger into every delay
A late reply, a changed tone, a night out — and your whole system floods.
03.
Needing constant reassurance
Asking if they still love you, and never quite believing the answer.
04.
Comparing yourself to other women
Their exes, their colleagues, the woman across the room — and always coming up short.
05.
Retroactive jealousy
Tormented by their past, before you were even in the picture.
06.
Testing them
Picking fights, going quiet, pulling away — to see if they’ll follow.
07.
Anxiety when they’re out
Unable to settle until they’re home, and ashamed of it.
08.
Feeling replaceable
The quiet certainty that someone better is always one conversation away.
09.
Pushing them away first
Leaving before you can be left.
10.
The shame afterwards
Hating how you behaved, promising it won’t happen again — until it does.
WHY KNOWING YOU’RE BEING ‘IRRATIONAL’ HASN’T HELPED
Jealousy doesn’t listen to evidence.
You may know, logically, that they’ve given you no reason. Everyone tells you so. And a deeper part of you keeps sounding the alarm anyway.
THE PREFRONTAL CORTEX
Where the reasoning lives.
Facts, reassurance, the evidence they’re faithful — the level advice works at. It knows you’re safe. It can’t switch off the alarm below.
THE LIMBIC SYSTEM
Where the alarm actually fires.
An attachment system that learned love could vanish, and treats every gap as the beginning of the end — which is exactly where my work goes.
You know they’ve done nothing wrong. Your nervous system is still braced for the loss. That’s the gap reassurance can’t bridge.
WHAT A SESSION INVOLVES
Three simple steps.
FIND WHERE IT BEGAN
We start gently — the moments that trigger it, and where your system first learned that love wasn’t safe. Share as much or as little as you’re comfortable with.
SETTLE THE ALARM
A simple, gentle process, a little like a visualisation, that helps your nervous system stand down and rebuild a felt sense of security — in yourself first, then with them. You stay fully conscious throughout.
TEST THE RESULTS
Before you leave, we confirm the change has landed — so you don’t just hope you’ll feel secure, you feel that you do. Most clients feel a noticeable shift by the end of their very first session.
98% of my clients report their issue resolved, to their satisfaction, in under six sessions.
REAL STORIES, REAL RESULTS
What it feels like on the other side.
I have spent 10 years stuck and paralysed with indecision. After one session with Sarah, I have been able to make moves towards what I want in my personal life and career, without overwhelm or fear.
EMMA K. / OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST / BRISBANE
Sarah is a person who can connect to anyone instantly. She gets you and is passionate to get you to where you want to be. She has done it for herself and she has the tools to get you there. You won’t regret it.
NATALIE B. / COUNSELLOR / BRISBANE
WHY WORK WITH ME
The difference you’ll actually feel.
LIVED EXPERIENCE
I didn’t learn about insecurity from a textbook. I know what it is to brace for loss, and I know what genuine security feels like on the other side.
SECURITY, NOT MANAGEMENT
I’m not here to teach you to hide the jealousy better. My focus is resolving the fear underneath it, so there’s nothing to hide.
TRAUMA-INFORMED
A safe, judgement-free space to heal — without reliving what you’ve been through.
NO WAITLIST, NO REFERRAL
Private practice means no GP referral and no Medicare waitlist. Begin when you’re ready.
IS THIS RIGHT FOR YOU?
My approach isn’t for everyone — and I’d rather be honest about that.
This is for you if…
- You know the jealousy isn’t fair on them, and you can’t seem to stop it
- You’ve had the reassurance, the promises and the proof, and the alarm keeps sounding
- You’re ready to actually resolve it, not just manage it forever
- You want to feel secure in yourself, not just in this relationship
It may not be the fit if…
- Your jealousy is a response to real, ongoing betrayal — that’s a different conversation, and one we can have
- You’re in acute crisis and need immediate clinical or psychiatric care
- You’re looking for ongoing, open-ended talk therapy rather than resolution
- You’re not quite ready to make a change right now — and that’s okay
Not sure where you sit? That’s exactly what the free consult is for. I’ll tell you honestly whether I can help.
AND IF I’M NOT THE RIGHT HELP?
My promise.
I’ll get you to whoever is.
Sometimes jealousy is being held in place by something underneath it — betrayal trauma, an anxious attachment pattern, or something else that needs a different kind of care.
If that becomes apparent while we’re working together, I won’t leave you to work it out alone. Your investment goes toward identifying what’s actually going on and coaching you toward the right approach — and I’ll act as your champion through the system, so you get a shortcut instead of years of trial and error.
I can’t stand the thought of needless suffering. You’ll be delivered safely to the right help, either way.
In 98% of the cases I take on, I am the right help. The other 2% leave with a clear path to the person who is.
DID YOU KNOW?
I can also help you resolve…
- Anxious attachment
- Abandonment issues
- Low confidence and self-esteem
- Betrayal trauma
- Anxiety
- Overthinking and rumination
- Anger and emotional reactivity
- Guilt and shame
- Trust and relationship patterns
- Fear of judgement
- Comparison
- Sleeplessness
LET’S BE HONEST
You don’t need to keep watching for the end.
The phone you check. The fights you start to feel less afraid. The love you can’t quite let in because you’re braced for losing it. None of that has to be the shape of your relationships.
So let’s let you feel secure. Let’s get cracking.
BEFORE YOU BOOK
Your questions, answered.
01.How is this different from seeing a psychologist?
A psychologist typically works with your conscious thoughts, helping you understand and manage what’s happening. I work beneath that, with the nervous-system response actually driving it — which is why the change tends to be faster and more lasting.
02.Is the jealousy my fault or theirs?
Neither, usually. Jealousy that fires without cause is a nervous-system response, not a character flaw — and not a verdict on your partner. It can be resolved regardless of who’s in the picture.
03.What if I’m single? Can I still do this?
Yes — and it’s often the best time. The pattern travels with you into every relationship. Resolving it now means the next one starts from security instead of fear.
04.Will I be hypnotised, or lose control?
No. You remain fully conscious and in control at every moment. The change work is gentle, closer to a guided visualisation than anything you’ve seen on stage.
Ready when you are.
Let’s help you feel secure.
Book your free 15-minute consult. We’ll talk about what’s been going on, and exactly how I can help you resolve it.
No pressure, no obligation — just a conversation about what’s possible for you.
Ready to feel better? Book your private consultation today.
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